Sunday, April 28, 2013

How to be Beautiful?

Dedicated especially to all the girls out there...

Being girls, most of the time we are more self-conscious, being more sensitive, and sometimes can be over worried. We are constantly worry and troubled by many little things in life. Sometimes, we are so busy until a point where we live each day routinely, without even knowing what ourselves are really doing. We may feel lost at some points in our life, we may start wondering whether we are doing things correctly, we may even suspect our very own decisions and maybe regretting it. When we talk to people, our daily conversations are mostly about list of all the upcoming tasks which may be overwhelming, bits and pieces in life which we are unsatisfied with, scars on our body which we can't get rid of, and how we always perceive ourselves as an ordinary, normal, simple girl. 

Many a times, when I ask people around me, what's the main concern you want to improve about yourself? They will tell me is their appearances, their body figures and self confidence, even if some of them are really beautiful inside and outside. It makes me start wondering, why are people always being unsatisfied with their own appearance and caring way too much on how the world is looking at them. We always seek to improve ourselves so that we look better in other people's eyes. We always perceive that we look bad or not as good as others in other people's opinions.

Now, I want to ask all of you and I want you be honest to yourself, 
do you really think you are that ordinary, normal and that you can't find a single good thing about yourself?

We are beautiful and we shine with our own rays.

Each of us are beautiful in our own way. We are special and unique. God created us with different facial features and with different characters so that we can shine with our own rays. Very often, we perceive the world looking at us too negatively and we care too much about how we look in other people's eyes. Our eyes can only see other people's good and beauty and yet we can't see the beauty in ourselves which other people see within us.

Let me challenge you now. Close your eyes and imagine looking at your yourself in your mind. Speak gently and sincerely to yourself that "I am beautiful. I am beautiful in my own way. I love myself very much and I will be responsible for my own life". Repeat this until you feel comfortable with it. I encourage you to wake up every morning, looking into the mirror and say this to yourself with a smile, "Good morning to the beautiful me! Today is going to be a beautiful day". This can be really powerful to keep your thoughts positive and I guarantee you it will bring such a great impact to help you stay genuinely happy in your everyday life.

This is a really meaningful quote by Mahatma Gandhi:

“Carefully watch your thoughts, for they become your words. Manage and watch your words, for they will become your actions. Consider and judge your actions, for they have become your habits. Acknowledge and watch your habits, for they shall become your values. Understand and embrace your values, for they become your destiny.”

It all start with a positive thoughts to find the beauty within us and to find happiness in life. Let me show you this video by Dove. This is a very meaningful and amazing video to show what we think about ourselves and how we think the way the world is looking at us can be so different with what the reality is. I hope you will take just 7 minutes to watch this video and give yourself some time to think about it.


Finding happiness in life and seeking ways to look more beautiful can be really simple and easy. Once you start with a positive attitude and mindset, you are already 50% through the journey. The rest is to learn how to see the beauty within yourself and build up your inner beauty with knowledge and values. 

I wish all of you to be happier in life and be more beautiful in your own ways!

Much love,
Jessica

Saturday, April 27, 2013

Random Shopping Trip - Stationery

Hi everyone! Haven't been updating for long! Life is hectic but I'm slowly planning everything out, hopefully it will turn out good!

Not going to type out much today, made a short video for today blog post, enjoy!

*Sorry for the bad quality, lighting in my room is really bad*



Paper trimmer : Popular Bookstore RM21 (before member discount)
Heart-shaped push pins : Daiso RM5 per item
Various stickers : Living Cabin *Everything less than RM5







I'm planning to make some handmade cards next week, finding some inspirations! Feel free to leave comments below and suggest what I can do with my stickers =)
That's all for now! Have a great weekend ahead!  Much love!

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Staying positive

Dreams

A lot of times we have a lot of internal conversations within ourselves and it determine our actions. What do I want to do, how am I going to do it, when am I doing it, is that possible? Shall I do it? Or maybe most of the time you would say, "well, maybe I'll try". In this society, people is always flooded with a lot of negative thoughts and negative ideas. They tend to imagine a lot of situations that might happen, which in reality, maybe most of the time just 1 out of 1 million situations will actually happen. Whenever a problem or a situation is throw to them, first thing they do is to reject, or I would rather say keeping themselves in their comfortable zone. Sometimes, even when they are just being honest to themselves. For example a friend of mine actually wants to be a pilot. This dream/goal that he created himself in his mind, surprisingly is something which himself can't even handle it.

When I talk to him, he isn't quite happy about his current life. He said he wants to do something he likes, something which he is really passionate for. This is the first time I'm seeing him being really honest to himself. In fact, he is actually troubled with this. He doesn't know how to be a pilot, what does a pilot looks like, what does a pilot do? All he knows is that he is hoping to be a pilot. So I ask him, you should be really happy that you know what your goal is but why are you unhappy? So he answered, I'm hoping somebody will give me a chance to help me do what I want to do, hopefully someday I will be able to realize my dream.

What is holding you back?

The question now is, what is holding you back? Why must you wait till someday sometime somebody will give you a chance to help you do what you would like to do? Can't you start it today? Can't you do it yourself? Can't you create a chance for yourself? What if the "chance" that you are talking about never come? We need to be motivated in order to keep ourselves going in life. We are kind of like on a balance with positive and negative attitudes on both ends. If we are not staying positive, not only it won't be balance, we would also fall on the negative side right to the bottom. 

Change your mindset

Not telling all these because I went to a motivational talk today, but because I realized that when I changed my mindset, nothing from the surrounding changes but everything looks different and better. Like attracts like, perhaps this is what people call The Law of Attraction, and when you are genuinely happy and positive, people around you start to be positive as well. I actually saw this book in Popular bookstore "The Law of Attraction", maybe can check it out if you are interested. I don't really believe in this, I tend to think it is more like an action and result, when you do something good, something else that is good will return, vice versa. I've been through a "depression" state for the past six months or so. I was not depressed until the state that you feel like commit suicide but that was the period where I spent most of my time watching drama, crying when I'm alone, not knowing what to do, don't want to go out of house and complaining everything under the sun to my bf. I've always been thinking that I have treated people well, and I even do more than what a friend should do for them most of the time, I treat them like my family. Why is it when I'm sad, when I'm unhappy, these people are not around? At the end of the day, I realized that people can say many things for you, they can do many things for you, but because of your mindset, you can't see anything they are doing. You think they ignore you, they forget you, because you perceive it, because you think that's the way they are. Hence, that is how you feel. 

I'm a lot happier now ever since I started to change my mindset and keep myself staying positive. In fact, I was having a really unlucky day last week, met a minor accident but paying more than what I should be paying due to various reasons, first time losing my parking ticket for the entire university life, having some problems with an event held in uni, spent two hours going back home due to a heavy jam etc, and it all happened on the SAME day. If these were to happen during my "depression" period, I couldn't imagine how would have I reacted. I was telling myself that everything is gonna be alright and things will work out just fine. I won't lie to you that I did have a little breakdown in between but it was still all good. Thanks to my bf as well for kept me company.

Only you can control your mindset, you choose to be happy or unhappy. You live your own life, you are responsible for it, and you choose the way you want to live it. 

Setting your goals

Setting your goals is important. You must know what you want to do, who you want to be, how you want to live your life. The most scary thing in the world is to be honest to yourself. We always tend to think too much about what others say, what others think, be bothered about what others do and not listening to the real voices within ourselves. It doesn't really matter whether you know how to achieve your goals, because if you do, you would have done it, right? Setting your goals and knowing it clearly in your mind helps you to find out how you want to do it. When I wanted to start up my online business, I told myself I want to do it, but I don't know how and I don't know what I need to do. But because I see this goal so clearly in my mind, I know exactly what I need for. I need a blog, a social networking platform, some website design knowledge and most importantly, some capital. I wasn't too sure where should I get my capital from, I do not want to spend more of my parents money, they are already paying a lot for my tuition fees and I was lost but I was determined. I planned out a rough amount of money I needed to start the business and I started to save my pocket money for this. There were things came in between and I finally setup the business. However, the capital wasn't not enough if it is just based on my savings. So on one random day, I went to several job hunting websites and I only searched for jobs that are able to pay for the amount I needed for my business. I was just trying my luck. Thank God for blessing me and I found a job which pays me just enough the amount that I needed to sustain my business and what more is that it is a social networking company. It helps me in a great way as I was able to contribute to the company based on the research which I've done while I'm doing my online business and things that I learnt from the company correlates with my business. That works just perfectly fine for me.

So, if you have a dream, take a piece of paper write it down, plan for it and get resources that you need. Start doing it! When you change your mindset to be positive and determined, nothing can stops you and I guarantee you will be amazed how far you can actually achieve and be able to see beyond the possibilities.  

Tuesday, April 02, 2013

[Running Man] - EP 139 / Never Ending Holiday

Hello everyone! How are you guys doing? I'm listening to the songs on my blog right now, just can't click on the "pause" button! *Gary, is just too amazing*

*I can't concentrate on typing what's on my mind now, thanks to the song, lol*

Anyway, its mid sem-break! The final week of this never-ending holiday! *Yayyy*!!

Well, don't exactly feel like it is a holiday, I have so many things to do everydayyyyy. So what have I been doing for the past one month?

1. Weekly dose of Running Man - You really gotta watch this! Not just because it is a comedy show and that it is funny, but from Running Man I've got a lot of inspiration on living a better life, making your dream comes true and how to treat people as much as how you want to be treated ^^ I love their interactions and it is the only two hours of the week that I really get to  relax my mind and laugh!

The latest episode is on -


Running Man Mini Drama Ep139- The Secret Brother and Sister










2. Daily dose of Bubzbeauty Vlog - I've been watching Bubz videos for long. I love her beauty tips and the way she lives up her life. I know, she is not perfect, nobody is perfect but there is just something in her that attracts me. Perhaps the way we appreciate every simple things in life? Anyway, she is a crazy girl and I enjoy her videos very much!




3. Learning on web development and social media management - HELP!

I'm also learning about web development from the internet and looking for some good platform to organize all the social media platform of my shop. Spending time managing my shop and looking for more ideas. Not to forget generating ideas and strategies for my part time job as well. If any of you do have books or good website on learning web development, please e-mail me! I would really be grateful for that! Learning is always fun but it requires so much time staring at the computer and I constantly feel that my eyes are so dry and strained! Maybe its time to get the eyedrops Bubs has just recommended?

4. Reading up some books and motivational magazines to keep myself motivated

Haha! Perhaps it sounds weird but that's really how I keep myself motivated. Sometimes you just need a push in your daily life to make yourself more productive and stop being so lazy. *I'm seriously a lazy bug*
Time!! Time!! Time!! is important and Self!! Self!! Self!! Management is the key thing to have more time out of 24 hours! That's what sticking on my working desk right now...lol

5. And of course, doing my assignments and study!

That's the pain of all but I can't wait to graduate!! So, I will keep myself more patience with these assignments and work harder this year!! Yay!!

Thats all for now, xoxo